Signs And Symptoms Of A Wrong Relationship!
There are some signs and symptoms of a healthy and an unhealthy relationship. No relationship that has existed for sometime ends abruptly, without some warning signs. But the truth is that, we often give a blind eyes to theses signs, and pretend not to notice them, or we lack the courage to speak out, and tell our partner about it. We believe all is well, or all will be well, even when these signs are obvious and glaring, and they always stare us on our faces, we still pretend not noticing them, or cover them up, probably, because we are being caught up in the webs of love. But no matter how long you try to cover them up, one day, the love will definitely be weakened by those negative signs and symptoms, the cord binding the love and the relationship will be broken by these signs, and when the center can no longer hold, the relationship collapses. However, the earlier you begin to take cognizance of these negative signs in your relationship, and act to either straighten up things, if you can, or quit the relationship to avoid delaying your success and being disappointed in the end, the better for you. Because, refusing to amend things now, or continuing to manage the relationship, means delaying the doomsday of your relationship.
In this post, i'm going to show you 8 obvious signs that presupposes you're in the wrong relationship.
1. LACK OF TRUST:
Trust is an essential ingredient in any relationship. Any relationship without trust cannot stand the test of time, and is bound to fail. Mutual trust is the bedrock, backbone and foundation of any successful relationship. Love attracts and endears both partners to each other, and brings your feelings and emotions together, but trust is important to help the relationship continue and lasts for a very long time. Even in the midst of challenges, trust will help you to overcome. Therefore, if you're in a relationship where there's no trust between both of you, and you're always suspicious of each other or every move made by either of you, probably, the trust is only in one direction. For instance, the man trust the woman, but the woman does not him in return, and vice versa. That relationship will definitely fail, no matter how long it has lasted, or the depth of love you have for each other. So, if your partner does not trust you, and he or she always suspects you, inspite of how hard you try to be honest with him or her, then, it is a negative sign that your relationship may not last.
2. UNHAPPINESS:
Unhappiness is one major cause of many broken relationships. If you're in a relationship where you're not getting the happiness you desire, or you're perpetually unhappy. No day passes without one major misunderstanding resulting from very insignificant things, or the number of times you're unhappy far outweighs the number of times you're happy, and you're always scared of coming back to your home or seeing your partner. Even when the relationship has existed for so many years, and it is expected that you ought to have thoroughly understood each other, and have less misunderstandings, but every minute thing triggers a fracas which consequently leads to unhappiness. It is a sign that you're in a wrong relationship that will definitely not last, because both of you are not compatible. No body wants to be in a relationship where he or she is perpetually unhappy, and the earlier you begin to accept this fact, the better for you.
3. SELF INTEREST OR SELF SEEKING:
Any relationship where any of the partners is always concerned about him or herself, or more interested in their individual benefits, without considering the other person and the success of the relationship. That's actually the worst kind of relationship you shouldn't be involved in. A good relationship is expected to be for mutual benefits, not preferring yourself above the other, or success of the relationship. If you notice this attitude in your relationship, then its obviously a sign that you're in the wrong relationship.
4. SHYNESS:
If you're in a relationship where your partner isn't proud of you, probably he or she is always shy of going out with you on a quality date that will endear both of you to each other, or lacks the confidence and boldness of presenting you to his or her friends and families. Then, i don't think you need any other soothsayer to tell you that you're in the wrong relationship that will definitely fail with time. Your ideal partner is supposed to be proud who you are in both private and public places, despite your looks or status.
5. LACK OF PROGRESS:
Nobody wants to be in a relationship where everything becomes so static, no progress in the relationship, even after many years of being together. Probably, you're working so hard, putting all your best to make sure there's progress in the relationship, but to your chagrin, you don't seem to be making any headway. Then you've got to watch it, because it might be a warning sign that you're not meant to be in that relationship. Every true relationship is expected to be making all-round progress and move from one level to another.
6. REVENGEFUL:
If you're in a relationship where your partner finds it very difficult to forgive and forget whole-heartedly any wrong you did in times past , he or she always brings it up and reminds you of them, or always wants to take a revenge on every wrong you did. Then it is a sign that you're not in the right relationship. Absolute forgiveness is very important in any relationship or marriage. No human being is perfect, and there are times we misbehave, but the ability to forgive and forget keeps the relationship waxing stronger. Rather than bear grudges against your partner, and with the intention of revenging. It is far better and safer to express your displeasure immediately you perceive any misdemeanor.
7. LACK OF COMMITMENT:
Your level of commitment to your relationship determines the depth of love your partner has for you. Love can't be measured, the only way you can ascertain the degree of love your partner has for you, is to measure his or her level of commitment to you and the relationship. Therefore, if you're in a relationship where your partner is not committed to you, or always gives flimsy and unnecessary excuses for not being with you, then it is a sign that you're not meant to be in that relationship.
8. LACK OF RESPECT FOR FAMILY MEMBERS:
Any relationship where your partner lacks single respect for your friends or family members, probably he or she does not love them, always speaks ill of them or does not see anything good about them, even when there's no cause to disrespect them. Then it is certainly a sign that you're in the wrong relationship that will definitely lead to no where, and will collapse one day.
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